What's the Difference? ~ Ray Lovegrove

Freedom is a word that is banded about in lots of ways, and often its exact meaning is only vaguely implied. Of course we have freedom of speech, political freedom and various other freedoms usually, though not always supported by any constitutional foundation (that is for those of you lucky enough to live in a country with a written constitution). One freedom that is rarely supported by law or constitution is a very basic and simple one, the freedom to be different.

A glance at the history books is enough to show that ‘being different’ has always come at a cost, sometimes from penalties imposed by the state, but more often by the attitude of others to individuals or groups that are ‘different’. Often these differences have been that an individual or group is not of the same race as the majority of the population are not of the same religion, or the same sexual orientation; in other cases, it may be that the individual is breaking the rules of dress, lifestyle or behaviour in a harmless way, but still a way that upsets others.

When we are young, past the age that our parents have undue influence; being different can be very important, but as youth turns to middle age the pressures of conformity become greater and we are ‘forced’ by social and economic factors to ‘toe the line’ and behave, dress and do the same things as other folks. Some of us, however, are made of nonconformist stuff and cut our own furrows through the fields of ‘sameness’.

Some years ago the Ohio Yearly Meeting (Quakers) published a rare and brief comment on their Facebook page ;
“As Christians we are called to nonconformity to the world. What does nonconforming mean to you and how do you go about it?”
It’s a question that we should all ask ourselves on a regular basis. Are we nonconforming? If we are, why are we doing it? To be different from the rest, to make a statement, or because we have looked at what the majority of people are doing and decided that it’s just not right for us to do that?

Mennonite farmer, and peace campaigner Arthur Gish once wrote;
"To be a Christian is to be subversive, or at least that is how he will be viewed by society. Since his loyalty is to one who is beyond history, he cannot give his ultimate allegiance to any government, business, class, or any other institution. His views cannot be expected to coincide with the majority view around him. He can be expected to be in continual conflict with the structures of society, for to be at peace with God means to be in conflict with the world."
Mennonites understand what being different can mean better than most of us. We can all learn much from them. How we are viewed by society depends very much on the honesty and integrity that we present to the world, even though they may see it as ‘weirdness’.

We also need to take care that 'being different' does not become 'being awkward' nor to assume that others, by their nonconforming, are displaying awkwardness themselves.  In my small, overwhelmingly Anglican, rural community, I am the only plain dressing, homesteading, vegan, Quaker ~ that doesn't always make for ready acceptance. In Britain we have a strange attitude to being different, we do not tolerate it well when it is the ‘man up the street’ or the woman in the supermarket queue, however, if that person is ‘so different’ and so unlike the majority of us, then we elevate them to the status of ‘national hero’ (Grayson Parry, David Bowie, Keith Moon, Quentin Crisp, William Blake etc.). Perhaps then the answer is for us all to be unconsciously nonconformist and wait for the world to accept us that way!

(C) Ray Lovegrove 2016

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Of The Season ~ Ray Lovegrove

Most of you think that, because I live in Britain and this post is being written at the end of Summer, that I'm going into a long moan about how bad the weather has been. Well, I'm going to surprise you all by not doing that……… except to say the weather here has been truly awful, the wettest August ever… that’s it… all done with!
I've written before about how the Celtic idea of time being some kind of spiral appeals to me more than the more conventional linear ‘times arrow’ set of ideas. My mind seems to be in the same set as it was this time last year, and the year before for that matter. To quote the book of Jerimiah (8;20);


“The harvest is past, the summer is ended, and we are not saved.”


I don’t read this in any ‘born again’ context, nor do I believe it was written in that way, but I do understand that it speaks of disappointment and of a feeling of loss and missed opportunities. I don’t write selfishly about my own failure to produce all the crops that I might have done, but of all our failures to come to terms with the tasks that we should have undertaken, in particular the problems that all us Europeans face with the growing problems of refugees from the Middle East.

I sympathise fully, and agree, with those who say that this is our problem and we must do all we can to help people find new homes among us, and offer our help, and friendship to all of those in need. I also have some understanding, but little sympathy, for those who feel we would like to help, but are unable to accommodate these displaced people. However, I cannot understand at all those who claim that the problem is not of our making and that we need do nothing, for these people – this is nothing but blindness and ignorance.

So as Summer gently turns to Autumn, I hope that we can be ‘saved’ by offering help and shelter to those who need it before the weather gets cold and the problems become compounded. I also hope that, very soon, we have in Britain the kind of imaginative and charitable approach to this problem as our neighbours in Germany and Scandinavia have shown to the World.

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© Ray Lovegrove (aka ‘Hay Quaker)  Ninth Month 2015


Shelter from the Storm ~ Ray Lovegrove

(C) K and R Lovegrove

In the same year that Alexander Graham Bell made his first telephone transmission, and Jesse James robed train in Otterville Missouri, our house was being built. It might not have been that exact year, but about 140 years ago. All that time the roof of our house has held back the forces of nature and withstood rain, hail, snow, wind and two World Wars. It, like all of us is getting a little older each day and the time has come to replace it.

C) K and R Lovegrove

Many of the old Welsh slates have been damaged and the lack of under-slate insulation is causing us some grief. We also have to carefully position the odd bucket when the rain comes from the south. We are lucky enough to be able to replace all the missing slates with recycled ones that have all come from a building of about the same age in Hay-on-Wye and will also be fitting a solar water heating system.
C) K and R Lovegrove

In our roof, like all aspects of our life, we aim to preserve what we can, use recycled material where possible, and use technology to lessen our impact on the environment.

Looking forward to a warmer and drier winter this year!

C) K and R Lovegrove


                   "The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining."

 John F. Kennedy


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(C) Ray Lovegrove (aka Hay Quaker)


Uncertain Harvest ~ Ray Lovegrove

(C) K and R Lovrgrove

In the dictionary of any gardener, grower or farmer the words 'Spring' and 'hope' are almost synonymous. I'm one of the old school who don't think of Spring as starting at the equinox, nor at any date on the calender, but simply when the soil is warm enough to sow. That time is soon upon us, and for some folks who live further south and at lower altitudes than me, it may have come already. Some of you may think that we in the British Isles spend too much of our time talking about the weather, that may be true, but then we do have good reason, our weather is hard to predict! We don't have the deepest snow, or the hottest weeks, we miss out on hurricanes and tornadoes and most other examples of extreme weather; but we do sit with the vast Atlantic ocean to our west, the Arctic circles not too far to the north and our vast Eurasian land mass to the east; all of these possible influences make our weather fickle. Although most of our weather comes from the south-west, that can change overnight to the north-east. It might be springlike today, but tomorrow it could be back to winter, and the next day...who knows? The spouting seedlings can be taken by the frost or washed away by rain. Some years our plum trees give us such a harvest that we are working late preserving fruit for weeks, but one night of late frost, in early Spring, when the blossoms are out results in no plums, no greengages and (worst of all) no damsons that summer.

The poet Robert Frost had a wide experience of weather, born in sunny San Fransico he later moved to the chillier climes of New Hampshire, but it was in this land, where England and Wales meet, where he would have come upon the unpredictable 'stopping-and-starting' kinds of spring that I am used to. This poem tells all;


Oh, give us pleasure in the flowers today;
And give us not to think so far away
As the uncertain harvest; keep us here
All simply in the springing of the year.

Oh, give us pleasure in the orchard white,
Like nothing else by day, like ghosts by night;
And make us happy in the happy bees,
The swarm dilating round the perfect trees.

And make us happy in the darting bird
That suddenly above the bees is heard,
The meteor that thrusts in with needle bill,
And off a blossom in mid air stands still.

For this is love and nothing else is love,
The which it is reserved for God above
To sanctify to what far ends He will,
But which it only needs that we fulfil.


Robert Frost 1915

That 'uncertain harvest' is a difficult thing, we don't think, as we sow our seed, of drought, of storms and pests and summers that don't quite work out as they should. As with so many things in life; starting a career, finding a partner, having children, buying a house ~ we live in the hope of what might be and don't give too much thought to that harvest which seems so very far away.

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(C) Ray Lovegrove (aka 'Hay Quaker') 2015


The Things I Need ~ Ray Lovegrove

With me, it’s often hard to say where loving simplicity starts and being an ‘old skinflint’ ends. Voluntary simplicity certainly has an impact, however small, on the environment, but much of the everyday simplicity we adopt also saves money. Gardening, for instance, has undergone many changes in the last two decades and I for one resist the idea of the ‘instant garden’ where one visits the garden centre with a credit card, fills a trolley with potted up plants, then returns home and plants them for immediate effect. For me gardening is a slow process of continued planning and development, after thirty years you might just be getting close to the garden of your dreams. Your ‘relationship’ with your garden is made much stronger if the plants have been raised from seed, or from cuttings or been given to you by family and friends.

At this time of year you can get plants for free just by keeping your eyes open and never going for a walk without a trowel and a plastic bag. You might even find useful plants in your own garden. The place to look is near fruit and nut trees. Fruit and nuts fall from trees in the late summer and autumn and young trees, or saplings, are usually spotted about in the winter of the following year. These small trees can be uprooted while dormant and potted up to grow on. Don’t worry about depleting supplies, young saplings that grow too close to the parent tree are doomed if you don’t rescue them. Hazelnut, walnut, chestnut, oak, beech, birch, hawthorn, willow, maple, holly, apple, pear, plum, cherry, black currant and gooseberry can all be found this time of year.

(C) K and R Lovegrove

Your biggest problem may be identifying your young trees, but it's not as difficult as you might think if you use a good identification guide. It's worth pointing out that birds and squirrels are good at planting seeds a little distance away from the parent tree (you may have noticed birds carrying cherries away to a nearby tree to devour them), so just keep your eyes open.

I find it easy to lift young saplings late on a sunny afternoon following a heavy overnight frost, apart from wrapping the roots up quickly to avoid them getting a touch of frost or drying out, the replanting can take place within a week or so. It's probably best to plant them in pots for the first year and plant them in a permanent home the next autumn.

A few words of warning! Don’t get yourself into trouble by trespassing to collect your saplings, if you are on private ground ask first. If you grow apples, pears and plums from saplings be warned that you might have a very long wait for fruit from your trees and it is unlikely to be the same variety, or the same size as the parent. Most modern apples are grown on ‘dwarfing rootstock’ whereas saplings from dropped fruit will grow into very large full size trees.

(C) K and R Lovegrove

Some things you might like to do with your saplings eventually;

·         Use young hazel and hawthorn top repair gaps in hedges, or if you have enough aim to replace fences in your garden with free natural hedging!

·         Make unused corners of your garden into wildlife friendly areas. A hazelnut, cherry or crab-apple tree will bring more insects, birds and small mammals into your garden than you could ever imagine.

·         Keep the plants in pots and donate them to local charity events for sale. Label them well!

·         You might like to try some guerilla gardening by planting your saplings where you expect them to thrive on unused public land.

Increase the amount of food you produce by planting some productive trees in your lawn.


The Johnny Appleseed Blessing

“Oh, the Lord is good to me,
And so I thank the Lord
For giving me the things I need
The sun, and the rain, and the apple seed.
The Lord is good to me.”


(C) K and R Lovegrove

The cotoneaster above grown from a sapling rescued from a car park.

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(C) Ray Lovegrove (aka 'Hay Quaker') 2015


'A Jar of Amber' ~ Ray Lovegrove

For much of I my life I have been involved with a wonderful, and for most of us mysterious substance; glass. I should explain that before my life as a homesteader, I was a chemist and worked first in pharmaceutical chemistry and then as a chemistry teacher. Cabinets full of glassware were my playground and I never lost my love and respect for retorts, conical flasks, delivery tubes and bell jars. Even before them my childhood was filled with what we call in the UK 'jam-jars' (and what I presume are called 'jelly jars' in North America) filling my bedroom with tadpoles, caterpillars, germinating seeds and slowly growing crystals.

(C) K and R Lovegrove

My love of glass jars continues to this day and I spend much time in the summer and autumn, quickly filling them with preserves, pickles and bottled fruit; then, over the winter and spring they are slowly brought out, and their contents appreciatively consumed. You can freeze produce, it's true, but nothing looks so beautiful, or tastes so good, as home 'canned' produce. You can, of course, buy jars for the home preserving of produce, but my simple home policy of 'recycle, reuse, repair and reduce', leads me to reclaim used jars and reuse them time and time again. In fact, it is cheaper in the UK to buy a jar of Polish pickles, eat the pickles, then wash and use the jar, than it is to buy an empty jar!

(C) K and R Lovegrove

My rules for jar reuse are simple;

·         Only use those jars which have labels stuck on with water soluble paste. Reject all jars in the store if the labels are stuck on with 'science fiction gum', it is too difficult to remove these gummed on labels, but you might have some luck by filling the jar with warm water, leaving for a few minutes then peeling slowly from one corner. Most jars with heavily gummed labels can only be sent to the glass recycling bin. If possible determine the way the label is stuck on before buying the product, wrinkly labels are generally pasted on and are the easiest to remove by soaking.

(C) K and R Lovegrove

·         Even if you cannot reuse the jar always save the lid. Lids, as a rule don’t have as long a useful life as the jars themselves and it is always useful to have spares.

·         Keep a store of empty washed jars. Keeping them with the lids on prevents dirt and dust getting in and stops spiders making a home in them. You need to wash the jars before you store them and again before they are sterilised for use.

·         Always gently lever off jar lids, if you pierce them with a small hole they will be of no further use to you.

·         Never buy gummy labels to put on your own produce jars, always use paste which is easier to clean off for next time. You can make a paste from flour and water (adding some salt acts as a preservative), or buy decorator wallpaper paste and mix a spoonful with water. Keep your made-up paste in a jar.

(C) K and R Lovegrove

How to use your Jars

·         Buy dried goods in recyclable paper, polythene or ‘cellophane’ bags and empty them into appropriately sized screw top glass jars. Don’t use a jar too small or you will be left with half a packet that won't fit! Label your jars and store them out of direct sunlight.

·         Use them for preserving your produce, jams/jellies, chutneys, pickles canned/bottled fruits etc.

·         Salads can be made directly into a jar, with a little dressing, and placed in the refrigerator for later in the day, packed lunches or picnics.

(C) K and R Lovegrove

·         Jars make excellent vases (in fact, I like them better than vases).

·         A jar with a candle in is a perfect table decoration, outside or in!

·         Drinking from a jam jar always makes the drink, taste more ‘rebellious’

·         Cloches made from jars are excellent and the weight of the jar makes them fairly windproof. In my garden I raise runner beans, French beans and sunflowers in this way.

(C) http://www.seasonalgardening.co.uk

·         You can keep some frog-spawn or tadpoles for a few days to give your children, and yourselves, the joy of watching them grow. Choose somewhere cool and out of direct sunlight and then put them back in the pond. You can take some from the pond every few days to watch their development.

(C) John Stokes http://fineartamerica.com/featured/jar-of-tadpoles-john-stokes.html

And if you or your children paint, then what do I need to tell you!
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"My earliest childhood memory is watching the sunlight through a jar of amber full of wasps."

Amanda Harlech


(C)  Ray Lovegrove (Aka 'Hay Quaker') 2015


A Time for Planning ~ Ray Lovegrove

At this time of year, with the garden under heavy frost, working outside can do more harm than good. The soil can be compressed, plants damaged and any soil that is turned is going to bury the frost and keep your soil colder for longer. I have two ways to cope with the weather.

Planning for the Spring

A cold and sunny day is the perfect time to sit down with a cup of tea and start to plan for the better weather, this not only gets a useful job done, but also lifts the spirits and carries my thoughts away from the short days and coldness. I have a very pictorial mind so plan my planting with the aid of pictures cut from old seed catalogues. Start with the perennial crops; rhubarb, soft fruit, etc. and then plan where your annual crops are going to go. You need to think about where things have been planted in the last three years and try to use some method of crop rotation. Brassicas (cabbage family) in particular need to grow where the soil has not had other related plants growing for two years. Also, some crops like fresh manure being dug in while others prefer soil that was manured a year, or even two years ago. You will need to think about sun and shade, many vegetable crops like full hot sunshine while others prefer life in the shade. If you do use cut out pictures move them around before making your final decision and pasting them on your plan.

When your plan is complete, all you need to do is decide on varieties of seed to sow. I like to save my own seed as far as possible, but still need to buy some supplies. If you are using seeds purchased last year be warned that carrot and parsnip seeds do not keep well and germination is poor with old supplies, best to buy fresh. I live in a cold spot due more to height above sea level than anything else, so much of my sowing has to be done undercover for planting out when the danger of late frost has passed.

Working the Land

If you do want to work on the garden despite the cold, why not cover areas of your plot with tarpaulin or heavy duty polythene? On a cold day, when the sun is shining you can pull back the covering and work on the soil. Make sure that the covering goes on when the soil is not frozen otherwise you will just be keeping the ground cold. Another job for midwinter, is that once you have decided where your brassica are to be planted you can ‘lime’ the soil. That means adding a calcium compound, usually powdered chalk to the soil to reduce acidity and prevent fungal disease. Liming also helps break down heavy clay soils, but be warned, test your soil to find the pH level before you lime; if you have alkaline soil you may not need it.

To find out more about simple growing click here.
If you have no land to grow crops, but still want to produce your own food click here.
For some ideas on cooking what you grow click here.
And to provide some ideas for simple eating click here.

Springing Life - Isaac Penington

"There is a pure seed of life which God hath sown in thee … Oh, wait daily to feel it. Oh, wait to feel the Seed, and the cry of thy soul in the breathing life of the Seed, to its Father … and wait for the risings of the power in thy heart … Be still and quiet, and silent before the Lord, not putting up any request to the Father, nor cherishing any desire in thee, but in the Seed’s lowly nature and purely springing life."

(C) Ray Lovegrove (aka 'Hay Quaker') 2015